Troubling Thoughts & Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD)





‘OCD’ refers to a psychiatric diagnosis: Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. At Share Resolve we rarely use diagnosis (you can read why here) but we have included the term in this article article because it’s often used in conversation.

People incorrectly use the the term OCD to refer to people who like to keep things neat and tidy. Many people like being tidy and it doesn’t cause them any distress. We would only say that someone has OCD if it is getting in the way of their lives.

People with OCD feel that they have to do certain behaviours repeatedly in order to avoid something terrible happening. This often because they become deeply troubled by a thought.

We have thousands of random thoughts every day. This is usually very helpful. It’s part of what makes us so creative and good at problem solving. However, because we are thinking so many random thoughts we will occasionally have very unpleasant thoughts.

If we are really upset by a thought we might try very hard to ‘stop’ thinking about it. This causes a problem because the more we try not to think about a thought the more often it will come back to us. If we keep trying to stop ourselves thinking a thought then we can find ourselves thinking about it all the time. The thought can start to feel like a very powerful urge.

Common Troubling Thoughts

Here are some examples of thoughts that people have found themselves thinking about:

  • Deliberately driving your car into another car.
  • Killing yourself (overdosing, slitting wrists etc)
  • Jumping off a high building.
  • Pushing a friend or stranger in front of a bus or train.
  • Stabbing a family member
  • Killing your baby or someone else’s baby
  • Hurting a child
  • Killing a child
  • Doing a disgusting sex act
  • Having sex with children
  • Stripping naked in public
  • Catching a disease by touching someone or something

Most of us have had unpleasant and disgusting thoughts like these at some point (but we often don’t speak about them). If we dislike thinking these thoughts and do not plan to act on them then there’s nothing to worry about – they are just random thoughts.

How to deal with unpleasant and troubling thoughts

The best way to deal with unpleasant thoughts is to acknowledge the thought and then think about something else. For example, if we are talking to a friend and suddenly we think ‘punch them in the face’, we should respond by thinking ‘what an odd thought’ and then we should get back to thinking about the conversation we are having with them.

How do troubling thoughts lead to repetitive behaviours?

If we start to believe that thinking unpleasant thoughts means that:

  • we are a bad person,
  • we are about to do something horrible
  • or that something terrible is about to happen.

We may be so worried that we start doing rituals or actions because we believe they will stop something bad happening. The more worried we become the more time we will spend doing these behaviours. The rituals and actions can end up taking hours of our lives. We  feel ‘compelled’ to do them because we are afraid that not doing the behaviours will cause something very bad to happen.

Examples of Compulsive Behaviours:

Here are some examples of behaviours that people can find themselves repeatedly doing:

  • Washing repeatedly because we think we are infected by disease.
  • Checking that items are arranged ‘just right’ because we think something bad may happen to a loved one if not aligned correctly.
  • Repeatedly saying a particular phrase to ourselves, or counting to a certain number because we think something bad will happen if we don’t.
  • Asking someone else for reassurance because we want to be told that nothing bad is about to happen.
  • Thinking or worrying all the time in attempt to reassure ourselves that nothing bad is going to happen.

How to Deal with Compulsive Behaviours:

Every time we do the compulsive behaviour it makes us feel a little bit better. We feel that we’ve managed to stop something bad from happening. However, that feeling doesn’t last for very long and soon we feel the need to repeat the compulsive behaviour.

If we could just stop doing the behaviour we would find out that nothing bad is going to happen. We would feel much safer and we wouldn’t feel the need to repeat the behaviours.

It’s really difficult to stop those behaviours because we worry so much about what will happen if we do. If you find that you can’t bring yourself to stop your compulsive behaviour feel free to contact us and arrange an appointment so we can talk it through together.

A Real Life Example of OCD

Once I worked with a very kind lady who was caring for her elderly mother. One day she had the random thought ‘I should stab her’. She was very upset because it was exactly the opposite of what she wanted to do.

She spent much of her time trying to stop thinking about stabbing her but the thought kept coming back. At night she would lock the door to her mother’s room and barricade her into the room to make sure she could not go inside to stab her. All of this was unnecessary.

She did not want to kill her mother and strong thoughts can’t make us do something that we don’t want to do. The thoughts were strong because she was trying to avoid thinking them. Having thoughts like this doesn’t mean you are a bad person or a dangerous person. In fact, becoming so concerned about the thoughts just shows how those thoughts are the opposite of what you want to do.

We gradually encouraged the kind lady to stop barricading her room and stop blaming herself for the troubling thoughts. Of course, she continued to be as caring to her mum as she had always been and she felt a lot better.

Any questions or comments about OCD?

Did you find this article helpful? If you have any questions, comments or opinions on this topic please write them in comments section at the bottom of this page and we’ll reply to you as soon as possible.

Further Information on OCD …

I’ve included some links to websites that I have found useful below:

OCD-UK (UK Charity)

This British charity aims to help people who are affected by Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. Their website has some useful information.

A Guide to OCD by the UK’s National Health Service (NHS)

This section of the NHS’s website gives good information on Obsessive Compulsive Disorder.

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